”It is the cruelest betrayal in my entire life”- Nigerian man digs up a grave to bury his wife alive after finding out she’s pregnant for his friend
A 49-year-old Nigerian man, Phillip Tersso, pictured left, has been arrested for attempting to bury his wife of 10 years, Mary, alive after finding out that she is pregnant for his friend, Aondowase Chiahemba.
Tersso, a native of Yelwata community, Nasarawa State, met mary, 12 years ago and got married to her two years later. They lived happily as a couple but battled infertility as their marriage of 10 years failed to produce a child. Tersso however became ill and was taken to different hospitals for treatment all to no avail.
On his sickbed, his wife, Mary informed him that she will be getting married when he dies and that she was already pregnant for another man who she revealed to be his friend.
Angry that his wife would get involved with another man who happens to be his friend, Tersso upon his recovery, concluded plans to kill Mary and then himself.
“Words cannot describe the agony of finding out after 10 years of marriage that my friend impregnated my wife.
I cannot blame Mr Aondowase but my wife. I truly feel as if someone has ripped my heart out, more so that I was down with sickness and she was busy sleeping with a close friend.
It is the cruelest betrayal in my entire life, my wife is a big disappointment and I can never forgive her. I felt utterly duped and cheated when she opened her mouth and told me with a vow not to abort it.
My whole world has been turned upside down. The only way to pay her back is to bury her alive, so that she would feel the pains of wishing me dead while I was sick.
I cannot imagine my own wife telling me that if I die, she will remarry. Besides, she is already pregnant for the man.
I lost my temper when I recovered from my illness and decided that she should die before me since she wished me death.
I’m not regretting my actions or plans. Since she wanted me to die, I should send her to the grave alive so that her planned marriage after my death will not be possible.
She shouldn’t have been pregnant for another man while I was sick. It means she wished me death.
There is power in spoken words, so let her go into the grave before me, since I did not die as she prayed.”he told The Nation.
Speaking further, a distraught Tersso said
“Even though the fertility challenge was there, we were finding ways to address it.
I am fully aware that people were talking and asking questions. My family members were no longer comfortable with the way things were going; that we got married over 10 years now without any issue, and we were tracing the issue. But she lost patience and went into a deal with my friend
I suspected their closeness at a point and somebody raised the issue with me but I never believed my own wife could open her legs for my own friend, more so that I was very sick.
I also did not believe my friend would ever contemplate doing such to me, especially when I was down. But both of them have proved me wrong.
My anger is with my wife. When she told me that she was pregnant, both of us knew that I was not responsible for it, because we did not have sex during my sickness.
She has shamed me. She has ruined my life and I have decided that if I have my way, I will pay her back in almost the same way by burying her alive, because I don’t want to see her any longer in my life.
I want to eliminate her completely from this world. That was why I dug this grave to put her inside and cover her.”
Tersso said that he was not unaware of the consequences of his planned actions, but he could not understand why his wife would have an affair with his friend at the time he was sick, reiterating that burying his wife alive was the only punishment that could compare to what she did to him. He also said that Mary committed an abomination by having sex with a man other than her husband.
On her part, Mary said she regrets her action but will never abort the child.
“When my husband told me that he would cut me into pieces and put me in a sack, I thought he was joking. But he went ahead and dug a 10-feet grave beside his late father’s grave.
My offence was that when he was sick, I concluded that he might die because we went to several hospitals to no avail. We resorted to traditional herbs.
In the process, I decided to test my fertility with another man who, unfortunately, is his friend, and I took in. I refused to abort the pregnancy and never hid it from him when he recovered.
My neighbours advised me to seek refuge elsewhere since my husband’s illness had turned his brain. He was bitter and wanted to revenge by burying me alive. He wanted to kill me because I had sex with another man and I am pregnant for him.
I regret my actions. It was the devil’s work. I made a mistake and I feel so guilty. My husband and I have been trying for about nine years to have a baby, and if this baby is not his, it will destroy him.
I know from day one that he would feel bad, but I have no choice but to prepare his mind that the baby does not belong to him but to his close friend.
For about 10 years now, he was not able to get me pregnant and I decided to test my fertility elsewhere. My husband has been denying me sex. He had not slept with me for a long time before he fell sick.
I almost thought of leaving him because I am a human being and he cannot starve me of sex for that long. That also contributed to my mistakenly falling in love with his friend. I have feelings too”
Mary’s father who was also interviewed said he would not support any act of infidelity.
“I don’t support the idea of having sex with your husband’s friend just because you are desperate for a child, especially when he is sick. And then you have the guts to tell your husband about it.
Even at that, the husband over-reacted. His decision (to bury her alive) was not the best, and I wouldn’t have allowed him to go free.
I am not saying my daughter is right, but his plans were too shocking if he had succeeded. That is all I can say for now. But I thank God he did not succeed.”Mary’s father said
Village elders, headed by Audu Ode, were said to be handling the matter, trying to sort out certain areas of grievances with Tersso before the option of handing him over to the appropriate authorities.
Audu said he would report the matter to the police but would plead with them to hold on until certain traditional rites are performed, adding that the man might be suffering from brain damage arising from his sickness.